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How to Reduce Engagement Anxiety

How to Reduce Engagement Anxiety

On a gorgeous cliff overlooking the beach, he gets down on one knee. He hands you a stunning diamond ring and confesses his love. "Will you marry me he?" he asks. His dreamy blue eyes stare into yours. 

Yes, Yes, Yes! You exclaim. 

He can't wait to spend the rest of his life with you. You are the most beautiful girl he has ever seen. He wants to wake up next to you every morning and bring you breakfast in bed. (OK, perhaps a bit unrealistic!)

Is this really happening to me? You pinch your cheek to make sure this is real.

For most ladies, engagement is among the most exciting times of their lives. It's fantastical and Hollywood-like. It's the moment they've been dreaming of since childhood. For a few days following the proposal, they are swept up in a whirlwind of romance and fantasy.

But soon after, the buzz dies down. Fantasy turns into reality and wedding anxiety begins to kick in.  It's now time to start planning the engagement party and wedding itself. Most future brides and grooms don't realize how stressful and anxiety provoking engagement can actually be. There are so many things to take care of from guest lists to finances. Who will cater the event? Which hall should you rent? Does your mother-in-law really have a say in the floral arrangements?

Due to a tremendous amount of engagement anxiety, couples often encounter relationship problems. It's hard to keep that romantic spark alive when you are bombarded with stressful, often expensive decisions to make. It's important though to invest in your relationship so as to keep the romance going. Just a small gesture can go miles and decrease the tension among you and your future hubby.

Here are four ways to reduce engagement anxiety, focusing on more positive aspects of your relationship: 

Write a Note:
A short note is the perfect way to tell your fiance how much you love him. Leave a note in the morning wishing him a good day. Or write a personal joke on a post-it and leave it on the mirror in his bathroom. Notes are simple, sweet ways to share a thought or feeling without getting too intense.

Put a cute picture of you and your fiance in a new, funky frame. Place it on your bedroom dresser or on a shelf in the living room. Framing a photo is a great way to literally (and figuratively) "reframe" your relationship. The goal is to remember how much you love each other. When things get overwhelming, look at the picture and reflect upon how happy you are despite the planning stress. 

Take a dance class together.  Many dance studios offer lessons for engaged couples who want to prepare something fun for the big night. Some couples learn a Salsa routine while others go for something more classic, like Ballroom dancing.  It doesn't matter as long as you're having a good time. The idea is to get you two laughing again. 

Love, Don't Text:
Set aside specific times to make love with your partner. Even if you think you have a spicy sex life, chances are it's toned down because of all the stress. Schedule a night when you and your fiance can turn off your cell phones, turn off the lights and make some text-free love.

Most importantly, try not to let engagement anxiety or wedding stress or come between you and your loved one. Engagement doesn't have to be a headache. It should be and will be (hopefully with the help of these tips) wonderful!


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