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What To Know Before Becoming A Bridesmaid

What To Know Before Becoming A Brid

One of the biggest honors at any wedding is being the maid of honor. It's important to keep in mind, however, that the role is not for everyone. Here are some things you should consider before saying, "I do" to being part of the bridal party.

Public Speaking

The maid of honor typically gives a speech during the wedding reception. It doesn't need to be anything other than from the heart (I've actually witnessed a maid of honor roasting her bride during the toast, and let me tell you, it was very awkward) but props to you if you can manage to be funny, charming and sincere at the same time. If you have a fear of public speaking, maybe you would better off being a bridesmaid than the maid of honor.


As maid of honor, you will be responsible for throwing the bride her bachelorette party (and in some cases, her bridal shower). You also may be accompanying your friend to looks at wedding dresses and bridesmaid gowns. Before accepting, realistically take in to consideration your schedule. Do you work long hours? Do you have a hectic job? Do you have children? These are all things that will affect your availability, so don't take the job if you don't have the time.


This is generally the biggest concern, which applies to both the bridesmaids and the maid of honor. If you are in the wedding party, expect to have a few additional expenses. Bridesmaid dresses can average between $150 and $350. Some brides may even ask you to buy a new pair of shoes, which can average between $75 and $200. Not to mention, you will still be responsible for getting a wedding gift for the bride and groom and a gift for the bridal shower. And if the wedding is outside of your city of residence, you could be paying for plane tickets and hotels. Expect to spend a minimum of $600 to be a part of the wedding party. If it is way out of your budget, let the bride know immediately when she asks you to be a part of the wedding party. Tell her that as much as you would love to be in her wedding, you are not in a position to spend money on a dress, new shoes and other additional wedding expenses. Some brides will offer to pay for your dress to offset costs (hey, they're choosing it, right?) so don't feel bad about taking them up on it. If you can come to an agreement, great, and if not, you can still have a ton of fun as a wedding guest.



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